How to deal with judgment.

Nowadays we all get judged a lot because of our age, race, weight, religion, our life choices and etc. Sometimes even people who know us very well can be extremely judgmental. They do it for a number of reasons: maybe they grew up in a different time (parents or grandparents), maybe they are too close minded to understand, maybe they are stubborn and proud, maybe they are very insecure or simply mean. And it doesn’t really matter why are they judging us, it is just the way they are, there is nothing we can do to change that. What we can change is our reaction to their judgment.

Today I wanted to share my opinion on how you should approach judgment.

First of all, remember: it is only someone’s opinion. The concept of right and wrong is very subjective. Somebody might think that you are doing everything wrong, while another person will think that you are doing everything right. Nobody knows everything, nobody has the ultimate truth, so don’t let other person’s opinion hurt your feelings. As far as you’re concerned he/she might as well be terribly wrong.

Also, keep in mind, that you are always going to be too young/old, tall/short and etc. for something in other’s point of view. There is no way to avoid judgment, so don’t get stressed because of it. Others will always express their opinions, sometimes not very nice ones, it is part of being human.

The only person, who can truly judge you is you. You have your own unique perspective of the world and nobody has the ability to comprehend it, therefore nobody can truly know if you are too weak to do something or if you are kind enough or smart enough. This knowledge belongs to you only. Without this important knowledge nobody can fairly judge you, because it is almost as calling a cat “bad” without ever seeing one or knowing what it is.

After all, the way of living your life is always going to be your decision. Even if somebody doesn’t approve your choices, don’t let it stop you from making them. The only thing you are going to regret is not following your heart, opinions of others will not matter to you later. For example, I quit studying in university so that I can move to live in Mexico with my husband. Everybody said, that it was stupid, immature and that I will regret it. Now I am very happy with my amazing husband, soon I am going to be a mother, I speak 3,5 languages (it’s complicated) and I still managed to find a way to study online. I have never made a better decision in my life. If I listened to my friends and some of my family members, I would have been very miserable now – that I know for a fact.

As far as we know, life is only given to us once, so don’t spend it doing something others want to do, find your own way, be unique, love yourself and always trust yourself. The most important thing in life is to be happy, so do whatever makes you happy, don’t have any regrets and be yourself no matter what. People will still judge you, but if you are happy it will never really bother you.